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ifritah
Double Shift and then some.
msn.com just loves to piss me off in the morning:

Secret Lives of Breadwinner Wives

This article is all about breadwinner women that can't stand it. They want their man to step in and start making the big bucks. That's what they're supposed to do, isn't it? How on earth is it fair that I, a woman, should have to bring home the bacon?

UGH.

UGH UGH UGH UGH UGH.

It's difficult enough trying to create change in the work environment. But when women who have actually attained a larger income than their husband start to complain that being the money-maker sucks... I just... Wow.

Perhaps what really frustrates me is that they didn't really go into the biggie issue. Sure, they mentioned the male/female roles that have been forced down our gullets since we were old enough to observe, but that's not what I'm talking about. It's aggravating, yes, but not what I'm talking about.

It's called the "double shift". A term used to describe women working a full-time job... and then coming home for her next 'shift' with child care duties and house work. In dual-income families, the woman is still expected to be the one to take up the household slack, even though the husband worked the same amount of hours. The percentage of this being a problem decreases when the woman makes more money in the marriage, but it's certainly not a dead subject.

Now, at the end of the article, the author attempts to find ways to solve the issues these women are having... but some of the points made me raise my eyebrow just as much as the rest of the article did. But, well, points for trying, I guess.

What about when women in financial success aren't having to take on extra responsibilities? Apparently, it's still too much for some. Take this excerpt for example:

It wasn't so long ago that my heart would race with pride and excitement when I heard upbeat statistics about women's earning prowess:

* According to a 2003 survey by the Bureau of Labor Statistics, about a third of wives earn more than their husbands.

* According to a study by the Families and Work Institute, a nonpartisan research organization in New York, women overall bring in 43% of household incomes.

I'm over that now. As the mother of a nearly two-month-old son whose husband is leaving his job to take on most of the child care and prep for graduate school, the title "breadwinner" has come to feel an awful lot like "albatross."


... She's "over it now". Well gee, I'm so glad that she's done 'playing' around in the man's sandbox and can now attempt to switch things back to the way things 'should be' in due time. *Sarcasm drips*

This portion made me nauseated. Actually, 90% of this article made me sick to my stomach. How the hell are we supposed to become an egalitarian nation when the progress we've made becomes stymied by those that were meant to be examples of women's strength?

Current Location: work
Current Mood: frustrated frustrated

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betacandy From: betacandy Date: December 8th, 2006 06:21 am (UTC) (Link)
This would be great in the Hathor forum, BTW.

What gets me is: since when did men enjoy being breadwinners? There's a reason we call it work.

What also gets me is that this is blatant manipulation of data. The press is focusing on these women. There are plenty of women I talk to who are so rewarded by their careers they don't mind the fact that work always tends to be a PITA. But the press focuses on the whiners, to paint us all in a bad light. Maybe these women can't hack it, but look at the rest of us.
ifritah From: ifritah Date: December 8th, 2006 06:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
The Hathor forum that I've been very bad about reading? *Blushes* I'll try to work on that!

But yeah, exactly. As my last post described, working all the time blows the big one. It doesn't matter what your sex is.

And I definitely agree with you on your last point! I have yet to see an msn.com article pertaining to women in a positive light. I would have loved to see an article talking to women who LOVE to make more than their hubbys and be the 'providers'.
betacandy From: betacandy Date: December 8th, 2006 06:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
I hope it didn't sound like I was chiding you. Put it in the forum or don't - it's all good! I was just saying it would be a good fit, in case that hadn't occurred to you. You could just start a new topic.

I don't think I've ever met a man who wouldn't trade in his career for an enormous lottery prize. Freedom to do what he wants when he wants, time to raise kids or travel, whatever. Who wouldn't prefer that?
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