Kiska (ifritah) wrote,
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Ms. Flanagan, I do believe you're on my list. Or, gee, I suppose I should say: Mrs.

In my latest Writer's Digest, they had a competition between Betty Friedan (author of The Feminine Mystique) and Caitlin Flanagan (author of To Hell With All That: Loving and Loathing Our Inner Housewife).

They give a section called 'Philosophy in a nutshell' where they take one quote from their books that, well, basically has their philosophy, uh, in a nutshell.

Anyway, that's what I wanted to note:

Friedan:

"The problem that has no name - which is simply the fact that American women are kept from growing to their full human capacities - is taking a far greater toll on the physical and mental health of our country than any known disease."

Vs.

Flanagan:

"What few will admit - because it is painful, because it reveals the unpleasant truth that life presents a series of choices, each of which precludes a host of other attractive possibilities - is that when a mother works, something is lost."

Is that when a mother works, something is lost...

I'm reeeeally hoping she means that something is lost when it comes to the child. Because out of context it's hard to tell. But man, that's the only way I'm not completely seething right now. ... Still seething, but I'm not turning green or anything.

Look, I'm not saying that having a parent full-time at home isn't good for a child. And I have complete respect for both housewives and househusbands. But that's part of the point, isn't it? Parent. Father OR mother.

And that's not even going into the financial reasons why most two-parent families have both the husband and wife go to work. Which isn't even including all the single-parent households out there.

I didn't study child psych when I was in college... mainly because the idea of studying children makes me shudder, so I can't go into too much of the argument over full-time parents vs. working parents and child rearing. (Though there's a good chance I'll be grabbing some of my books when I get home from work.)

But I can tell you one thing. If throwing my rights out the window as an equal human being is the only way to insure that my child grows up healthy and happy (which it doesn't)? Then just add that to my very long list of reasons why I'm not having kids.

(Oh, and by the way? The author (John Warner) of this article deemed that Flanagan won. "Because she's still living - and her powerful publishing friends could harm me." *Cries*)
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