Secret Lives of Breadwinner Wives
This article is all about breadwinner women that can't stand it. They want their man to step in and start making the big bucks. That's what they're supposed to do, isn't it? How on earth is it fair that I, a woman, should have to bring home the bacon?
UGH UGH UGH UGH UGH.
It's difficult enough trying to create change in the work environment. But when women who have actually attained a larger income than their husband start to complain that being the money-maker sucks... I just... Wow.
Perhaps what really frustrates me is that they didn't really go into the biggie issue. Sure, they mentioned the male/female roles that have been forced down our gullets since we were old enough to observe, but that's not what I'm talking about. It's aggravating, yes, but not what I'm talking about.
It's called the "double shift". A term used to describe women working a full-time job... and then coming home for her next 'shift' with child care duties and house work. In dual-income families, the woman is still expected to be the one to take up the household slack, even though the husband worked the same amount of hours. The percentage of this being a problem decreases when the woman makes more money in the marriage, but it's certainly not a dead subject.
Now, at the end of the article, the author attempts to find ways to solve the issues these women are having... but some of the points made me raise my eyebrow just as much as the rest of the article did. But, well, points for trying, I guess.
What about when women in financial success aren't having to take on extra responsibilities? Apparently, it's still too much for some. Take this excerpt for example:
It wasn't so long ago that my heart would race with pride and excitement when I heard upbeat statistics about women's earning prowess:
* According to a 2003 survey by the Bureau of Labor Statistics, about a third of wives earn more than their husbands.
* According to a study by the Families and Work Institute, a nonpartisan research organization in New York, women overall bring in 43% of household incomes.
I'm over that now. As the mother of a nearly two-month-old son whose husband is leaving his job to take on most of the child care and prep for graduate school, the title "breadwinner" has come to feel an awful lot like "albatross."
... She's "over it now". Well gee, I'm so glad that she's done 'playing' around in the man's sandbox and can now attempt to switch things back to the way things 'should be' in due time. *Sarcasm drips*
This portion made me nauseated. Actually, 90% of this article made me sick to my stomach. How the hell are we supposed to become an egalitarian nation when the progress we've made becomes stymied by those that were meant to be examples of women's strength?